What You Say Nowhere Else

That you even open this says something about your nerve.

I want to know what you actually want. The polite answer I already know, and it gets me nowhere. Hence these questions. A few go further than you're used to, I know that, and I ask them anyway. Only I read your answers. You can stay anonymous, and you decide how much you share.

No fancy writing. Write what's true, not what sounds good. That one answer you barely dare to write down is usually the answer it's all about.

What it gets you. Everyone who fills this in seriously gets € 250 from me. As a discount on your first date, or as an extra hour when you book an extended date. Your call.

And there's an evening to be won. The entry that moves me most gets an extended date with me, four to five hours, worth € 950. Only the travel costs are added. I read everything myself, and I pick on honesty. You can enter through December 1, 2026.

Filling this in with your partner? Give the answer that's true for both of you. Doing it for a friend? Fill it in the way you know her.

Take your time. There's only one right answer here: the real one.

You first.

1.1 You're filling this in as: *

So I send you to the right questions.

A woman, for myself

A couple, together

For a friend, as a gift

Something else

Blind dating is fine, but I'd rather you lift a corner of the veil.

2.1 Which age group are you in? *

Couple: pick the woman's age group. Gift for a friend: pick hers.

25 to 34

35 to 44

45 to 54

55 to 64

65 or older

I'd rather not say

2.2 How would you describe your situation? *

Single

In a relationship, my partner knows about this

In a relationship, this is just for me

Looking together with my partner (couple)

Something else

2.3 How did you find me? *

Through Google

Through AI

Through social media

Someone told me about you

I don't remember

Something else

2.4 When you first thought "I want something": what was the very first thing you typed into Google? *

Word for word, even if it was an odd sentence. Didn't come through Google? Then write what you would type.

2.5 And when that didn't give you quite what you were looking for: how did you keep searching?

Which other words did you try? Anything you still remember helps.

2.6 Did you mostly search for what you wanted, or for what it's called?

The feeling or the experience, or words like gigolo or escort.

Mostly on the feeling or the experience

Mostly on the name of the service

Both, mixed together

I don't remember

2.7 Did you also ask an AI, like ChatGPT? What exactly did you ask?

Write your question down as literally as you remember it. Didn't use AI? Skip this one.

2.8 If the AI had given you one perfect answer, what should it have said?

The answer that would have made you think: this is it. Didn't use AI? Skip this one.

2.9 Did you read something somewhere that helped you dare to keep looking?

An article, a post, a woman's story. What was it, and where did you find it?

2.10 How long did you look around before filling this in?

This is the first time, fairly spontaneous

A few days

A few weeks

Months, I've been coming back for a while

Now it gets interesting, so just write what you think.

3.1 What do you hunger for when it comes to intimacy and attention? *

Touch, desire, sex, being seen again. What are you missing? Something you've never dared to say out loud is welcome here too. Be as concrete as you dare.

3.3 And if you could keep only one from that list: which one stays? *

Tell me why that one.

3.5 Is there something you've never dared, but do secretly think about? *

Write it down here. Only I read it.

3.6 While we're being this honest: what's your ultimate fantasy? *

Not the polished version. The movie that plays in your head when no one's watching, as raw and honest as it really is. And by now you know: no judgment.

3.7 Where's your limit? *

What do you definitely not want, or what does someone need to know to make you feel safe?

3.8 Fast-forward for a moment. Say you've had an evening like that, exactly as you pictured it. *

What's different the next morning? What did you get, and what did you let go of?

3.9 Picture an ideal date. From the moment someone walks in to the moment he leaves. *

Where are you, how do you feel, what happens? Describe it the way you see it.

3.10 What would you need to feel at ease right away on a first date, before anything happens? *

Think about what you just wrote about that ideal date. What lets you land straight away?

3.11 You could look for extra intimacy in many ways, through an app for instance, or someone you run into. And yet you ended up with a gigolo. *

What draws you to that, and what do you hope a date gives you that you wouldn't find anywhere else?

3.12 If you didn't have to explain it to anyone: what would you call what you're looking for?

In your own words, not mine.

3.14 And when you think of him: what does he have to live up to for you? *

Think about how he is, how he treats you, what you need from him to really be able to let go.

3.15 What had to happen, or what would have to happen, before "never" turns into "maybe" for you?

A book, a film or series, a friend's story, something that happened in your life. There's often one tipping point. What was it for you, or what would it be?

3.16 Why doesn't a date through an app, or picking someone up in a bar, appeal to you? *

You just told me what draws you toward a gigolo. This is the other side. What falls short about a date like that, or what holds you back there?

4A.1 What is it in your life, or exactly what's missing, that brought you here to me? *

4A.2 What would you want to feel after a date with me? *

Pick what comes closest.

Desired and seen

Relaxed, with a quiet mind

Confident about my body

Pampered, finally receiving instead of giving for once

Alive, shaken awake

Something else

4A.3 Explain your choice if you like. *

What makes this feeling in particular matter to you?

Are you doing this together, as a couple? Then these questions are for you two. Only fill them in if this applies to you.

4B.1 What do you want to experience together?

What do you hope a date with me does for the two of you?

4B.2 What role do you two see for me?

I'm there for her, he watches

The three of us, as equals

I take the lead over both of you

Something we agree on together beforehand

We don't know yet, we'd love to discover that

4B.3 What matters to you two so it feels good for both of you?

Think about the boundaries between you, jealousy, what is and isn't allowed.

Are you doing this for a friend? What a sweet idea. Fill in the questions the way you know her, only if this applies to you.

4C.1 Who is she to you, and why do you think she in particular deserves or needs this?

4C.2 Why do you think a date with me would do her good?

What's going on in her life?

4C.3 And what would she have doubts about? What might be holding her back?

4C.4 What makes you think she's open to this?

Have the two of you ever talked about it, or do you sense it from something?

Almost everyone has doubts about something, so go ahead and say it. A doubt you voice out loud, I can take away. One you keep to yourself, I can't.

5.1 Think of a friend who secretly longs for this but would never do it. What do you think holds her back?

You can also think of women in general.

5.4 Of everything you checked: what's your biggest doubt? *

Spell it out, as honestly as you dare.

5.5 That threshold to get in touch: where did it (or does it) mostly sit?

Practical (discretion, safety, how it works)

Emotional (shame, guilt, loyalty)

Self-image (am I "that kind of woman", am I allowed to want this)

Doubt about me (am I real, am I worth it)

5.6 Say you wanted to send me a first message right now. What's stopping you, or what could stop you? *

Think of that moment with your finger hovering over the button.

5.7 That little voice that says "don't": write down literally what it says.

In its words, even if they're harsh or unkind.

5.8 What would change, or what would people think, if it came out that you were even considering this?

Who mustn't find out, and why not?

5.9 Flip it around completely. What would I have to show, say or do so that threshold simply falls away for you? *

As concrete as you can.

5.11 If you had to convince a very cautious friend that this is safe and okay, which argument would work on her?

What would you tell her?

5.12 Have you considered booking something like this before, with me or someone else? How did that go, or what held you back?

5.13 And have you actually done it, with another gigolo or escort?

How did it go? What made it good, and what was missing or would you want different?

Most women have the same questions before booking. Let me answer the most important ones up front, so you read the rest with an easier mind.

Discretion. With me, discretion isn't a promise but the foundation. What's between us stays between us, always. I never ask for more than you want to share, and you choose which channel and which name we stay in touch by. No one in your life ever has to notice a thing.

How it goes. You don't have to perform anything and you don't have to be brave. We start by texting, calmly, for as long as you need. We only meet once you're sure, not a moment sooner. You set the pace, at every step.

Safety. Your limit is the limit, period. Even if you only feel it in the moment itself. I read you and I never push. If you say "no" or "hold on", that's fine right away and it changes nothing about how I see you.

And you don't have to take my word for it. This is what Lisanne wrote, who like you had doubts for a long time first:

From my very first message, the communication was clear, warm, and professional. One of the first things that stood out to me was Victor's emphasis on confidentiality and privacy. Victor's depth and empathy made me feel completely safe and understood, which meant I truly dared to enjoy and to explore.
Lisanne

Now that I've just put you at ease, I dare to ask the honest questions too. Not to judge, I never do that, but the more honest you are here, the better I'll read you later on. Fill this in about yourself. Doing this together? Then each of you answer for yourself. Filling it in for a friend? Then feel free to skip what you don't know about her.

Your sex life so far:

5B.1 When did you last have really good sex, and what made it so good? *

Think of the last time you were still glowing afterward. What was there, what did he do, what did you do?

5B.2 How often have you been having sex lately?

On average over the past year, and there's no right or wrong.

Rarely to never

Once or twice a month

Weekly

Several times a week

5B.3 How many men have you slept with in your life?

A rough estimate is fine, and no number is wrong.

1 to 3

4 to 10

11 to 25

More than 25

I'd rather not say

5B.4 What's the most daring thing you've done sexually? *

The one that still makes you blush a little now, or grin.

How you are in bed:

5B.5 Have you ever told a man what you want in bed, and did you get it? *

No, I don't dare to ask

I hint at it, but don't say it out loud

Yes, I say what I want

I take charge and direct him

5B.6 Do you talk during sex, or are you quiet? *

Quiet, it all happens inside

Softly, moans and sounds

I talk and give directions

I'm loud and clear

5B.7 How long does good sex last for you? *

A quick one is fine (15 to 30 minutes)

Take your time (1 to 2 hours)

Hours, the whole afternoon or evening

It depends on my mood

5B.8 What do you need after intense sex? *

Lying against each other, talking, being alone for a bit, something to drink? Tell me what lets you land again.

What draws you in, and what doesn't:

5B.9 Do you ever watch porn, and if so, what kind?

What do you look at when you're alone and no one's watching?

5B.10 Role-play: which scenarios appeal to you? *

A role, a situation, a setting that turns you on to act out together.

5B.11 Have you ever had sex in an unusual place? *

No, pretty much always indoors, in bed

Yes, a few times (a car, the office, outdoors)

Yes, I actively seek that adventure out

5B.12 Have you ever had sex with more than one person at once? *

No, and it doesn't draw me either

No, but the idea does draw me

Yes, a threesome

Yes, with more than three

5B.13 What's an instant turn-off for you in bed? *

The one thing that wrecks the moment right away.

What's harder to say:

5B.14 What have you tried that fell flat? *

Something you thought you'd find exciting, but that it didn't turn out to be.

5B.15 What did you miss with your previous partners? *

Where were you left wanting, in bed or around it?

5B.16 Have you ever had a bad sexual experience?

Only if you want to share it, and you don't have to explain anything you'd rather keep to yourself.

No, not really

Yes, but nothing serious

Yes, and it has affected me

I'd rather not say

5B.17 Have you ever faked anything?

An orgasm, pleasure, interest. Almost everyone has at some point, so feel free to be honest.

No, never

Yes, now and then

Yes, often

Almost always

5B.18 Is there anything sexual you're ashamed of?

A wish, a fantasy, something from your past. Here it's allowed, because only I read it.

So I know where I can make the difference.

6.1a And if one of these would make or break it, which one is it? *

Same list as above, now just one choice.

Discretion and reliability

A real click, a good conversation

Experience and confidence

Knowledge of BDSM and what’s possible

Patience, no rush

That he really listens to what you want

That he dares to take the lead

Hygiene and grooming

That it feels like a date, not a service

6.2 What makes the difference for you between a service you forget again, and an evening you're still thinking back on months later? *

6.3 What would make you back out of a gigolo right away? What turns you off? *

6.4 And what could move you so much that you'd secretly whisper to your best friend that she has to do this too? *

6.5 Say you did it, and it was exactly right. What would you tell your doubting self from a month before?

A few sentences, addressed to her.

This is where I get the most out of it for myself, so go ahead and say what you really think.

7.1 What do you still want to know before you'd book someone? *

Which question hasn't been answered, what are you running into?

7.2 When you came to my site: which page or line made you think "I'm in the right place"? And what were you still missing? *

A page, a photo, a review, a sentence that stayed with you. And where did you get stuck, or what couldn't you find? Criticism is the most useful gift you can give me here.

7.3 Which word or sentence on a site like this would make a hesitant woman leave?

On my site or on someone else's.

7.4 Which service appeals to you most, and why? *

Just tell me what it did to you when you read it. And if nothing on there is quite right, say that too.

7.5 Did you look at other gigolos or escort sites as well? *

Which ones, and what did or didn't appeal to you there? It doesn't make me jealous, it makes me better.

7.6 Did you already send me a message? What made you hesitate, and what tipped the balance?

Hardly anyone sends a message straight away. What held you back, and what made you do it anyway? Skip this one if you haven't sent anything yet.

7.7 Many women come to my site, read everything, and still send nothing. What do you think stops them at the very last moment?

7.8 Did you read the reviews from other women, and did they help you? *

Didn't read them

Read them, but I stayed skeptical

Read them, and they helped

They tipped the balance

7.9 And why did it end up being me? *

You surely saw more men go by. What made you stick with me in particular?

7.10 If a friend were looking for exactly the same thing: which search term or tip would you give her to find me?

Many women don’t start with sex here, but with just touch and closeness — pressed against each other, skin to skin, at your own pace. That’s allowed too. Nothing has to happen.

7.11 If you could pick one first step, which fits you best? *

Just touch and closeness, no sex (cuddling, skin to skin)

Touch, and seeing where it goes

A full date, sex is part of it

Just getting to know each other first, with nothing having to happen that evening

Almost done. This helps me gauge where you stand.

Before you pick an amount below: an evening that’s completely right isn’t an hour of sex. It’s time, attention, no rush — it feels like a date, not a service. A gigolo in the Netherlands costs between € 100 and € 500 per hour; I deliberately sit right in the middle of that.

8.1 A quick word about money. What feels like a fitting amount for an evening that’s completely right? *

No right or wrong.

Less than € 200 per hour

€ 200 to € 300 per hour

€ 300 to € 500 per hour

€ 500 or more per hour

I don’t look at the hourly rate, but at what the whole experience is worth to me

I’d rather not say

8.2 Where would you most like a meeting to take place? *

At your place

In a hotel

In a cabin

In a (swingers) club

I don't know yet

8.3 And where do you stand right now, if you're completely honest? *

I've booked a gigolo before, or tried to

I'm seriously considering it, it's a matter of the right person and the right moment

I'm really toying with the idea, but there's still a threshold for me

I'm mostly curious, I daydream about it a bit, nothing more yet

Honestly? I mostly entered for the giveaway itself

8.4 What would be the very smallest first step that still feels doable for you?

Asking one question anonymously, no name

Sending a wink or a like, no words

First just listening to a voice message from me

A short, anonymous video call

A message right away, I'm ready

Something else

The first step is small: a few messages, at your own pace, until you’re sure. Not a moment sooner.

Fill this in properly, otherwise I can’t give you that € 250. And if you win and I can’t reach you, the evening goes to someone else. You can still enter through December 1, 2026.

9.1 What may I call you? *

9.2 Your email address. *

9.3 Your WhatsApp number. *

9.3a May I send you a short, calm message first? Then you don’t have to take the first step. *

Yes, please — you first

Yes, but give me a little time

No, I’ll reach out myself when I’m ready

9.4 Anything else you'd like to add?

A question, a thought, something about my site or what I offer, anything at all. It's all welcome.

9.5 Email me a copy of my answers.

Yes, email me a copy

What do you long for, if no one ever had to know?

Only I read it, and you can stay anonymous. Fill it in seriously and you get € 250 back from me. And if your story moves me most, you may win exclusive prizes. The only question is: do you dare?

What You Say Nowhere Else