Fifteen questions, five short blocks. You don't have to fill everything in. Take whatever stirs something.

The high point

Let's start with the best part. Take your time here, because writing it down brings the feeling back.

Which moment stays with you? Write it out the way you remember it, with the details.

Which image kept coming back the days after, when you were alone?

When were you most aroused? The moment that did the most to your body.

What was the most beautiful moment, and why?

What it did to you

This is where you get the most out of it. The morning after often tells me more than the evening itself.

How did you feel that next morning, and a week later?

What do you know now about yourself or your desire that you didn't know before?

What do you say, do or ask more easily since then?

What the outside world notices

Maud told &C that afterward she walked taller and started dressing more carefully. I hear that often. It leaks out, even to people who have no idea where it comes from.

Do you walk, talk or dress differently since that evening? The small things count too: that one dress that came back out of the closet, a straighter back in the supermarket.

Who noticed something about you, and what exactly did they say?

Where outside the bedroom do you notice it? At work, among your girlfriends, at home, in how you look at men you come across now.

What you want more of

Be as specific as you dare.

Where would you have wanted to stay longer than we did?

What do you want more of? Think of pace or slowness, of leading, teasing, skin, words, waiting.

What was just slightly off, and how would it have been exactly right?

Next time

This is how I build our next date. The more specific you are, the less I have to guess.

Was there something you wanted to ask or say and then didn't?

Which fantasy has been running through your head since that date?

What do you want to feel next time?

Any other remarks, insights or realizations?

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